Everyone’s talking about Amy Winehouse. The five times Grammy award winning ‘Back to Black’ star was found dead in her Camden home on Saturday by paramedics who said she was ‘beyond help.’ She was pronounced dead at the scene. This puts Amy in the infamous ’27 club’ alongside the likes of Janis Joplin, Kurt Cobain and Jimmy Hendrix. Pending the results of a post mortem examination there has been widespread speculation that the cause of her death was caused by drink or drugs.
I was in the car with my sister when we heard the news on the radio. I was shocked maybe, but not surprised. Anyone with eyes and ears knows that over the past few years Amy has become better known for being a Heroin addict and full time train wreck than for any musical success, which in itself is a crying shame.
Over the past couple of days tributes to the ‘Rehab’ singer have been flooding in from celebs, friends, journos and fans alike. Twitter tributes, article tributes, forum tributes, have been saturating the media. Those who met Amy described her as fun, funny, outspoken, kind, down to earth, and a musical genius. These tributes have all chronicled Amy’s rise to stardom and her spectacular fall from grace.
Any loss of life, especially at such a young age, despite the circumstances, is a tragedy. In Amy’s case a young woman who had her whole life ahead of her, and because of her talent, the whole world a her feet, is gone. Her life is over and her talent wasted and this is truly terrible. My sympathies lie with her family and friends and I honestly hope that Amy finds at rest the peace she couldn’t find in life.
But I have to admit that here my sympathy ends. I have huge respect for the talent Amy possessed and the person she was before her demise, which sadly came a long time before her death.
This might make me sound unsympathetic, it might mean that karma will come back and bite me on the arse but I’m just gonna say it how I see it:
If you choose to live by the sword, odds are, you’re gonna die by it.
Those who say Amy had no choice are insulting the girl’s intelligence. To achieve the success and produce the music that she did she had to be extremely smart. If she was as independent and out spoken as people say, why, when offered hardcore drugs for the first time, didn’t she say “Nah that’s not my thing”? At this fork in the road Amy DID have a choice. And she made the wrong one. Simple as that.
The people that absolve Amy of all responsibility for the situation she found herself in are living on cloud cuckoo land. Amy did what Amy wanted to do.
I’m no expert on addiction. I’ve never suffered an addiction or known anyone who has, and I wholeheartedly believe that once Amy found herself on that downward spiral, it was almost impossible to get herself off, even if she wanted to. That’s the slippery slope of addiction. But the first time she took drugs she would have known the risk she was taking. The risk of addiction, the risk to her life. It didn’t stop her though did it?
Some are suggesting that Amy could and should have been given more help and support. What total BS. How much help and support can you offer a person? Everyone that cared about Amy tried to help. Her family, her friends, her record company. As the old saying goes: you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. For her to get clean and turn her life around Amy had to want to help herself. She evidently didn’t. Her fortune was probably what got her into such a mess in the first place but it also meant she was a damn site better off than most drug addicts. She had the money to pay for world-class rehabilitation, which she did numerous times to little effect, because she wanted to get off her face more than she wanted to get clean. If Amy had wanted the help everything she needed was at her fingertips: money, facilities, support which is more than can be said for others in the same position.
How Amy died certainly wasn’t ‘deserved’ but it was inevitable. The sad thing is she had money and talent to burn, and in the end they burned her.
On Sunday morning when watching the news channels it made me sick that certain commentators were pitting the death of Amy Winehouse against the devastating atrocity in Norway, saying that one ‘deserved’ more news coverage and more front pages than the other.
Just take a moment and think about that.
To play these two tragic incidents against each other is disgusting.
The day before she died Amy kissed her mum on the doorstep and told her she loved her and those 93 innocent people went about their lives that day as if as normal and ended up either blown up or shot dead. At the end of the day they were all lives, which are now over. Personalities lost, talent wasted and potential unclaimed.
I honestly mean no disrespect with this post; it’s just my opinion as I see it. The whole situation is terribly sad but I wish people would call the facts the facts.
Amy was like a shooting star: She burned brightly for a moment, and then she was gone. She sparkled too brightly to burn forever.
Whatever she was looking for in life I hope she finds it in heaven.